There are states in which representatives of the beautiful half of humanity do not constitute a single type. Although the kingdom of Nepal is tiny and lost in the mountains there are so many nationalities live in here that even super states could envy and the status of a woman here can also be diverse – from domestic servants to living goddesses.
The birth of a girl in Nepal was never considered a joyous event, although the Nepalese house rests entirely on women’s shoulders. Women wake up before sunrise and immediately rush to the spring as the water pipe in Nepal is available only in the rich modern homes and the rest, even the townspeople, have to carry water on themselves. Woman has to carry water every single day, because in Nepal food is not prepared on yesterday’s water and it is only suitable for washing dirty dishes.
Nepali women are allowed to eat only after all the men and children in the family are already fed and sent to work and school. Hastily snacked and goes to work – this is about woman in Nepal. Village women of Nepal in addition to the usual hassle must find time to feed and milk the cattle and get firewood for the hearth which is a tricky task, considering that there is almost no forest left near the villages in Nepal. Because of the hot climate food quickly deteriorates and the refrigerator for many families of Nepal even now is an unacceptable luxury. So it is necessary for poor Nepali woman to cook in the morning and in the evening. While menstrual period poor woman’s life is especially tight as traditionally the “unclean” woman must live in a barn, lonely and hungry all this time.
Only when a severe drought occurs in the kingdom that is common here and the terrible specter of starving death begins to loom, the men go to their wives to bow as only they can save the situation by appeasing the gods. The women of the village gather together and go out naked to the rice fields and then touched sky weeps. Read also: What you have to know before marriyng Nepal girl
An ancient Nepalese legend says: in the old days, local women had a truly divine status. Kings communicated with the goddess Thalej and even played with her in dice and she gave them wise advices. But the last raja of the dynasty dared to inflame her with passion. The insulted goddess left the palace forever having warned that from now on she will appear to people only in the form of a little girl named Kumari. Since then, within the framework of a single caste of jewelers from the Nevaru nationality has a ritual according to which a worthy embodiment of Taledzhu is chosen here. Before allowing girls at the age of 3 to 5 years to contest the jury must make sure that all of them are of appropriate origin and throughout their small lives have not lost a single drop of blood. In addition, the future goddess is put to the test of fearlessness: the girl is left for the night in a room set with images of creepy monsters, into which rummaging people dressed as evil spirits. Then the jury is moved from the family to a three-story church near the old royal palace, where she is under the care of a nanny and a Hindu priest. The girl lives in the temple several years before the appearance on her body of the first blood (that is, before the menstruation) or the loss of the first tooth. From this moment the goddess moves into the body of another baby and the former Kumari returns to the family.
The living goddess is the only one to whom the king bows. It happens once a year during the Kumarijatra holiday. On this day the king arrives at the temple, makes offerings and the goddess Kumari blesses him by substituting a tick – red dot on her forehead for a kiss, which symbolizes the extension of his authority until the holiday next year. To be Kumari, on the one hand, is honorable, but on the other hand there is little happiness. The girl is practically deprived of ordinary children’s joys, she lives apart from her parents, who, incidentally, do not have any privileges. Later, the former goddess is very difficult to marry, because, according to the firm belief, marriage to Kumari brings misfortune.
Nepalese are Hindu, and therefore their life is strictly subordinated to the caste system: higher “caste karma” guarantees a higher social status. But women have the opportunity to “upgrade”: with the marriage they are automatically “credited” in the caste of the spouse. If a young man tries to fall in love with a girl from a higher caste, his feelings are doomed to complete collapse in advance.
Although the status for Nepali woman is a double-edged sword: the higher the caste – the more rigor and limitations in marriage she gets. Among orthodox Hindus there is an opinion that girls should be married before the menstrual period begins. So, contrary to the official legislation, which allows marriage only from the age of 16, ten-year-old spouses meet in Nepal very often, especially in rural areas. And since life expectancy in Nepal is low you often see the picture when it’s time for her to play dolls and she is already a widow! To marry a second time in Nepal is almost impossible as well as to get divorced. What kind of divorce you are talking about if in the past the wife was generally ordered to follow the deceased spouse rushing into the funeral pyre! But even here there is a loophole: the rite of moss, according to which a girl at a tender age can be married for the fruit of the bel tree. It was believed that this fruit is one of the hypostases of the god Vishnu, so that the real husband of the baby was the deity himself! In this case, the girl, as usual, in due time can marry a mere mortal. If the husband died fast the widow has the right to find herself another partner for life and Vishnu is looking at the married games of his wife through his fingers as he has a bulk of second halves. The question of divorce is just as simple and ingenious. To terminate a marriage with a deity, it is enough to return him a wedding gift – a nut!
However, in lower castes, especially in isolated mountain areas, questions of family and marriage are even simpler: the hard-working husband is good, the slacker is chased the neck and wife is looking for a new one and fruits and nuts are taken for food as it is not good to distract the gods by trifles.
The work of women in Nepal is harder and more prolonged than that of men. Nevertheless, the girls in Nepal tend themselves; look neat, clean and beautifully dressed. Typical feature for Nepal is that many girls ride scooters and motorcycles. There are many sad looking girls on the streets of Nepal, but some are a little… pensive, or what. I don’t really sure those girls are really sad or that face appearance is formed during their life and reflects their harsh reality.
There are many women in Nepal playing with kids, or at least it seems like. Actually, Nepalese women are very hard working; they are good caring mothers and great housewives. It is only the traditional attitude of men to their women is very rude and possessive. Man in Nepal is the head of the family and woman has no right to object at any circumstances. There are many beautiful and extremely pretty girls in Nepal, but their beauty is often spoiled by the hard every day labor, lack of medicine and severe routine living.
Nepali women are very kind hearted and they could pretend for the best wives of the planet. They know how to please a man. They are quiet and listen to the husband – if you like such type of women you have to look for the wife in Nepal. Actually, there would be many girls claim to become your bride as many of them would happily escape Nepal in any possibility and for thanksgiving she would be great devoted wife – think about it.
However, you probably should make your search of bride in Nepal in urban areas where women are used to civilization and globalized life as life in Nepali rural areas sometimes could be very weird for average foreigner from Europe or the United States. For example, in Western Nepal a bizarre relationship called polyandry is allowed. This is when one woman is married immediately for two or more brothers. It was due to a limited land where poor farmers did not want to divide the land between their sons. Polygamy preserves the property in the family. In addition, when one husband leaves the family for many months because of shopping trips, the other husband stays to take care of the family. Plus, it reduces the population of an overpopulated country. A woman with many husbands can have only one child. The way of life of many Nepalese people allows polygamy. According to the Nepalese themselves, polygamy is a consequence of the absence of children from the first marriage. Women are universally dependent on men and have weak access to education and power institutions. More precisely, no more than two brothers can be married on one girl. If there are three brothers the average traditionally goes to the monastery. But in some villages this rule does not exist. Moreover, sometimes even friends of hubbub can share his wife. Read also: Can you actually touch Nepalese “untouchable” women
According to the Nepalese themselves, polygamy is a consequence of the absence of children from the first marriage. Women are universally dependent on men and have weak access to education and power institutions. Another nuance is that Nepalese are not in hurry with the official conclusion of marriage, they divide the bed with the girl all in turn until the appearance of the child. Only then happy parents remember that they must play the wedding. Although, they do not take part in the wedding banquet themselves. The bride and the grooms smear their heads with oil and are sent to work in the fields as they need to feed the children and family, but the guests continue to eat, drink and have fun.
What else can we say to describe typical woman from Nepal? The first thing that catches your eye in them is the collective image. It consists of mixing different nationalities. Since people in Nepal are very different in themselves, they are Hindus (northern and southern) who came to Nepal, Chinese, Koreans and a lot of mountain villages, which over time mixed up and in cities there was such a mix of every blood as well. Therefore, religion and culture are very collective and diverse and women in Nepal are special mix of cultures. Outwardly in their main mass, they are swarthy, squat, some very small in height with a higher percentage of Chinese and alpine race in their blood, a small incision of the eyes, long thick black hair and brightly colored clothes with an abundance of ornaments. Those nationalities who came from different mountain regions, hardy and hardworking, can even be said to be openly friendly. But, what binds them all together is naivete and openness to everything new and these are the main aspects of their destruction.
Nepal is actively being built and many echoes of civilization have appeared here. In just two years large supermarkets with fascinated products and an abundance of goods from other countries stuffed with chemistry have grown in the cities. And Nepalese who had money, mostly involved in the tourist business and young Nepalese men, who go to earn money to all countries of the world, were hooked on the facade of civilization. And the women who went in beautiful feminine clothes, switched to Chinese consumer goods and if some years before they were beautiful with their healthy natural beauty, now everything is abruptly changing not for better. In Nepal, almost all women and men spit on the street. You can often see nice young girl walking down the street and suddenly she crocks like old trucker guy and you can see that every 10 minutes – what a terrible habit. They spit everything and everywhere. It’s especially disgusting to look at women when she spits. And there are a lot of fans of soda products and they drink it with liters and do not understand yet all the possible harm.
And what is the problem with women in Nepal now? Women in Nepal now give birth at a very late age and mostly to one child. Because she gave birth and became fat like a ball – that is how Nepalese women say about themselves. After she gives birth to a child she usually sits at home and then age does not allow to give birth to even one more child. Therefore, there was a tendency that mothers in Nepalese cities become old, fat and with one child. But literally about 10 years ago, women in Nepal gave birth to ten children and remained beautiful and healthy. What made them change so much? You can draw your own conclusion something like – the benefits of civilization, television which is now in every house, with 500 channels and a masonic watch it every evening with the whole family. As the result – washed brain, leading to laziness, where people want everything and immediately and live in imaginary comfort brought by civilization. Read also: Severe weekdays of Nepali women