What you have to know before marriyng Nepal girl
Virtually all of Nepalese life is built on religious dogmas and institutions. Officially, Nepal is considered a Hindu country, but practically a local religion is a complex syncretic cult created on the basis of Hinduism and Buddhism, with an extensive pantheon of tantric deities, each of which is believed to have an impact on a person’s life. Therefore, monasteries and pagodas located everywhere are of great importance in the life of Nepalese – here he necessarily spends some part of his life; here the spiritual life of the country is also concentrated. The whole life of an ordinary Nepalese is built on the basis of a huge number of religious and moral dogmas, observance of which is simply inconceivable for a foreigner. But in dealing with local people, in order not to get into an unpleasant situation, one should at least not break open local traditions and minor offenses to an alien are condescendingly forgiven.
Nepalese are very friendly and fairly simple-minded people. Long-term isolation of the country allowed preserving the best features of the local ethnos in its original form. However, the massive invasion of tourists and climbers at the end of the 20th century, as well as the emigration of a large number of Tibetans from the Tibetan of China brought here many previously unseen elements, beginning with the “achievements of civilization” and ending with the emergence of an extensive class of traders. However, the system of behavior and social relationships in Nepalese society has changed quite poorly and local etiquette is still significantly different from most of the neighboring countries.
Characteristic feature of Nepalese is their striking modesty in all life situations. At the same time they are extremely curious and very fond of chatting and this is such a rattling mixture. Therefore, it will not be difficult to talk with locals as many of them understand English well, but it will not be easy to obtain the necessary information. Ideally, any conversation with a local resident should begin with a long introductory exchange of courtesies and it is more likely Nepalese ask first and his questions will concern the family, work and country of the interlocutor. And for the most part if it does not concern any services and money these questions will be a little naive, but the interest in the interlocutor is sincere. At the same time, the attitude towards tourists is somewhat lenient, but always friendly. Read also: Typical characteristics of Nepali woman
A common form of greeting in Nepal is palms folded by the boat, brought to the face (usually forehead – in case of extreme respect, or to the chin – in everyday life). It is accompanied by a gesture with the word “namaste” or, in the case of a referral to a respected person, “namaskar”. Men usually shake hands with each other and with women it is common to use “namaste”. First of all, it is customary to greet the most respected or senior person. When referring to someone, you should add to the name a polite ending “-ji” or a universal term of courteous attention “hajur”. It is not recommended to be surprised and violently express emotions, the public display of signs of attention between a man and a woman is also not accepted (between people of the same sex is absolutely not forbidden).
Nepalese are used to call almost all members of the community brothers and sisters, so this applies to friends and even strangers where foreigners also count. Therefore, often, instead of greeting, you can hear appeals like “brother” or “sister”, and in relation to the elderly or simply deserved people – “father” or “mother.” This is a generally accepted rule, so it should not be surprising when such an appeal sounds about the tourist, although it is possible that this will be followed by petty begging something like “I will pray for you to Krishna” and an intrusive offer of their “services.” Often you can find a somewhat obscure attitude towards a stranger like “hey, brother!”, but this is just a local tradition.
The gesticulation system in Nepal is also quite unique – an agreement is expressed by a nod of the head and shrugging shoulders. “No” is indicated by shaking the head to the sides, often while the Nepalese look down. To call an employee or a waiter, extend a hand with the palm and fingers down. The nod means “yes.” But some European gestures, such as a thumb protruding upward with a clenched fist, may seem indecent here. As a guilty gesture, they touch the hand or body of the offended person and then touch the head with their hands.
In everyday life, Nepalese observe many religious and moral postulates. You can not step over a lying person or through his legs and also show others their soles or allow another person to step over them. Stepping on someone’s extended legs is also considered insulting. Even touching someone else’s feet is not allowed, as well as touching someone with your foot (or rather, shoes). You can not touch the head of a Nepalese and stroke the children’s head as according to local canons this is a sacred part of the body and only monks and parents can touch it. When entering a Nepali house, a Hindu or Buddhist temple, you should take off your shoes before entering and you can enter the house only with the permission of the owner. Do not throw garbage into a stove or hearth as the hearth is considered here a sacred symbol of home and family. You should not give or take anything with your left hand, as Nepalese use it for hygienic procedures as there is no toilet paper in the country and they use a jug of water and left hand instead and it is clear now why they consider left hand “impure” or “dirty hand”. You can not raise your voice in conversation as this is considered as a sign of anger.
You can take food and eat only with your right hand and you can hold a glass in the left hand. Before meals and after meals you must rinse your hands and lips. The utensils, which have already been filled with food by someone, are inviolable and called “jutekh” (“contaminated”) and no one can touch it. Therefore, do not try anything from someone else’s dishes, use a common pitcher and even more do not offer anything from your plate or glass to other members of the feast. For the same reason, you can not touch the exposed food and even the products on the market and the drinking vessels (the owner himself pours all you ask for without delay) and other people’s plates. Nepalese themselves, for example, drink from a jug or bowl, without touching their edge with their lips. But the plate of the guest of honor, which usually is always a foreigner, will be constantly pawned without any permission. Cutlery on the table is usually absent; food is taken directly with your hand. However, in the house, and even more so – in the restaurant, they definitely are present.
The traditional food of Nepalese is usually extremely scarce and, despite the usual hospitality in these places, it is perfectly permissible to bring along with you and put on the table some food and drinks. In Nepal people usually eat twice a day: about 10.00-11.00 A.M. (until this point it is impossible to find an open cafe or restaurant in any place) and at 7.00-8.00 P.M., and in the morning they drink only a cup of tea. The meal usually takes place on the floor. Guests sit on mats with crossed legs (feet should be covered) and eat from the general dish standing on the floor.
Nepal uses its own system of chronology and age. The newborn child immediately has an age of one year in order to avoid the attempted greedy for newborn children’s soul spirits. A person who has spent a year in a monastery can consider himself younger for the duration of his stay in the monastery. Therefore, confusion arises regularly when it goes about the true age of the locals. In everyday life Nepalese are very peculiar in the course of time and punctuality is not known here, and “now” could mean “today”. Therefore, you need to come to all meetings in advance, do not wait for special accuracy from local transport and be patient in case of servicing in restaurants or solving some official issues as the Nepalese bureaucracy, as elsewhere in the world, is “accelerated” only under the influence of material interest in the outcome business. Read also: Severe weekdays of Nepali women
Buddhist pagodas and other religious structures are usually left clockwise to the left. When visiting the temple it is recommended to give alms (“baksheesh”), and it is not its size is important, but the greatest possible number of beneficiaries. However, moderation should be observed here (encouraging beggars is not the most gratifying work in the world, especially in Nepal). But the donations to the temple cash desk will be accepted with sincere gratitude. Here, near the walls of the temples, merchants usually swarm with all sorts of souvenirs and services. It is difficult to get rid of them, but it is necessary because a whole crowd of jelling and asking or offering people will run for the “caught on the bait” European, which often just hurts all hopes to get acquainted with the landmark. It is forbidden to bring into the territory of the temples any leather products and often even shoes refer to them. Do not touch the believers or the offerings they made for the gods. Women should not touch the monks. You can not wash with water, which flows into a prayer water mill. Many Hindu temples are closed to foreigners.
Making pictures inside museums and temples is prohibited. Also, one should carefully approach the issue of filming local residents and their dwellings – most often this issue is very simply solved by offering a certain amount of money, here you can also bargain. A special situation is with the “sadhu”, wandering hermits, as a rule, devotees of Shiva. They gather near temples and in places where tourists gather, especially posing for photographers. Once they completely abandoned material wealth and travel the world in search of truth. Their lives are completely dependent on others and donations for them are the only way to survive.
During any excursion it is recommended to use clothes that cover the body the most. Women wearing shorts and even pants i.e. jeans are under a sharp condemnation. Nepalese themselves never open their legs and men do not even bare their torso even in hot weather. And the more inappropriate is the exposure of legs or other parts of the body in a public place, for example, for bathing or sunbathing.
After you read all the information that could be rather accepted as a tourist guide, are you still having temptation to get married with Nepali girl? If love and desire is stronger than any restrictions and mental and cultural differences, than it is better for you to visit Nepal in search on nice Nepali bride. Read also: Can you actually touch Nepalese “untouchable” women